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geneva mills (Geneva)
| | Posted on Thursday, December 09, 2004 - 07:27 am: | 
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shgift
You were very articulate when expaining how to talk to an 11 year boy abour dyslexia. Every thing that you said is exactly what I think. I have such a hard time, however, putting into words what I am thinking. Becouse of this I’m often told “you do not Have Dyslexia. You just need to learn how to stay on task! And things like “If wanted to be successful you would be. You are so bright with a lot of talent but until you want to do the wourk nothing will happen.” Like I love being this way. I was tested twice for dyslexia and both tests came back negative, I was told. Lack of confidance has been a problem for me from K-12 grade and into my adult hood. I have a very logical idea about how to take care of myself but when it comes to the output of the knolage that I know I have it is impossible most of the time. I cant keep a place to live. I have hard time rembering to feed myself. I cant hold down a job. I quit befor I get fired most of the time. But damb I’m smart so sorry, you don’t qualify for help. Your just unmotivated.
I’m very motivated. In every area of my life. I’m motivated in all areas at the same time. I get confused and tired, usually angry at myself becouses I know how to do all these things but I go blank in my anxiety riddled state.
This is the first time that I have ever researched my dyslexia (not diagnosed, but I know I have it), and I have had an overwhelmingly profound awakening. I started with the book and have been obsessed since then. The idea of me fixing this is to much for my head. My possibilities will endless. And all I can do is cry. I have knowone oround that I can talk to very openly about this, I’m often told that I’m crazy, I need psychiatric help, and that I think to much. tell me something I don’t alreadiy know. I guess I’m writing for validation (in a sence)
Thank you for taking the time to type. It helped me.
Greatfully,
geneva |
tatjana efthimiou (Tania)
| | Posted on Monday, February 14, 2005 - 06:25 pm: |
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Hi,
my name is Tania mother of a 7 year old who i suspect has dyslexia. He is however an average reader has excellent sporting ability and I am going to have trouble getting any extra tutoring through the government and school system as he is not 2 years under standard, with his academic levels. I believe that his symptoms have been helped because of the fact that he has practiced gymnastics from the age of 2 and a 1/2 along with swimming from and early age, and now soccer. I have spent time with my son making sure he reads every night and I feel that our general upbringing gives him the exuberance, determination and confidence to give things ago.
He shows a number of speech, reading and writing problems and auditory processing difficulties which sometimes disorientate him. I am in the process of having all the various areas of visual auditory cognitory and occupational skills assessesed. His self-esteem is starting to suffer and he is not enjoying the learning process very much. I am determined to do what it takes to help my son but am unsure which approach to take.
It's not about his academic performance after all it's about the enjoyment of learning and the feeling of being comfortable with ones own capabilities in any situation which i feel is the most important thing here.
His dad is also probably dyslexic and had much difficulty growing up being labelled dummy etc and had really poor sporting abilities. He, however never had the sort of support my son gets. I see the disorientation and the 'crossed wire' thing happening all the time with him and I am sure that it has something to do with the way the brain is recieving messages.
That is why i am very tempted by the dore or dats programme. It claims to 'cure' the problem and work on the brain on a physiological level that seems to get to the core reason behind the brain getting signals 'mixed up'. But why it has to be so expensive is very unfortunate as it is very unnafordable for most people. I like the idea of not just using compensatory skills to get around the problems but getting to a real physiological and underlying cause that corrects itself with simple balance and co-ordination exercises.
On the other hand, I do see that people with dyslexia, have a gift also and that there different style of learning, seeing and processing can make them be exceptionally special individuals. My husband did really well at high school at physics and maths. He has incredible ears for sound engineering as he can isolate certain sounds, but under normal circumstances often has problems hearing people and gets and gets disoriented when there's lots going on.
That is why I would like to make sure that I do not stifle my sons individuality and natural creative expression and would rather enhance his abilities rather than 'fix' them to make him 'normal'. I'm not sure that the dore approach will have that type of nurturing effect.
Is there anyone out there who is achieving results with a natural approach. I am interested in Ayurvedic herbs which can stimulate the brain and memory function. I also feel that yoga would be great and would love to know of specific exercises covering eye, brain and ear stimulation, balance and co-ordination and reflexes etc.
It would be great to converse with someone in a similar situation.
Cao Tania |
tatjana efthimiou (Tania)
| | Posted on Monday, February 14, 2005 - 06:31 pm: |
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Hi again,
I just posted a message just to add. I like the idea of the ROn Davis style of therapy. I am still waiting on the book to come in at the library. It sounds great and also can be more affordable with the parent guides and do it yourself system. This would obviously be very time intensive. My other consern is that the style would conflict with the learning at school and confuse my child.
Also does it get to the core of things and have a sort of chain reaction effect where the brain starts to see things more clearly?
Is there someone with something to say about this and can share their experience?
Thanks Tania |
Lisa Wendell (Zelco)
| | Posted on Monday, February 14, 2005 - 06:51 pm: |
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The best way to learn more is to read the site thoroughly and the book - otherwise I'd just have to rewrite it all 
"This would obviously be very time intensive."
Rome wasn't built in a day.  Actually I'm finding it is the least time intensive of all the things we've tried before. Everything else required a minimum of 5 nights a week where as with the Davis method we have skipped up to 2 weeks and did not "backslide" in anyway. We never have to redo anything or relearn a trigger word. We do try to stick to a schedule of doing so many words per week but that is because we set that as our goal - not because we have to least we lose all our progress. My son loves it because there is no repetition nor constant drill.
One does have to do the trigger words at home for Davis to be effective - Modeling the trigger words with clay must be done!
"My other concern is that the style would conflict with the learning at school and confuse my child." I don't see how it could conflict with what is done at school in anyway. It should totally support school and make it easier.
Lisa |
tatjana efthimiou (Tania)
| | Posted on Tuesday, February 15, 2005 - 11:52 pm: |
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hi and thanks lisa
I eventually would like to read the site there is a lot to take in and I am trying to understand where my son is at and organize various test etc. I wouldnt necessarily bother but I thought it might help when trying to get extra help at school etc. I just want to get onto things. Its stressful to have to put my son's problems on hold as i have to get back and finish our house but once settled would like to get into a good routine.
I can see that it would be difficult to go back to a full time job and give my son the attention I would like to. I will probably work out what I need to know when I eventually get a hold of the book and read the site more but im wondering once all the skills and triggers are taught does that make our children as independent with doing homework as any other and how long would it take to get to that stage?
I've really no-one to talk with and find that the internet is very exhausting and not personal enough for me. but I will im sure get to know people with the same sort of problems and be able to exchange ideas etc?
thanks again tania |
nick
| | Posted on Saturday, January 07, 2006 - 04:24 am: |
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self esteem... what is that.........  |
Neicey
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Registered: 09-2006
| | Posted on Friday, September 22, 2006 - 06:02 pm: |
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I Have a 7 yrs old that I think is Dyslexia he get the letters mix up sometimes, and write sentences that does'nt make any sense at all. I don't know where to start, do I start with the school first? what exactly do they do to with the child? If he do have it, will his assignments be much easier for him to do? Right now I can see the frustration in his eyes of trying to complete his work....at home he uses the eraser a lot.....I am serious thinking of homeschooling him. What are my rights as a parent and where do I begin????????? |
Frost4z4
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Username: Frost4z4
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Registered: 11-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, November 02, 2006 - 11:55 pm: |
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Man...you people wright too much, I never read stuff when it comes in such big quantity...I tend to get bored on the way or just loose track of where I am...I sometimes day-dream while still reading and wake up 5 pages later...nothing personal The way that I grew up can be very damaging for a childs mind...When I was 5, me and my family left our country(Romania) and went to England for 3 years, that's where I started school, after thows 3 years of english education, I came back here...you can imagine the shock, the fact that everything was done differently and I didn't really know much romanian then, so, threw a lot of private-intuition I managed to get threw thows 3 years, only to move back to England for another 3 years...joy I didn't learn much there... just kept on failing every class without caring much, because I was going to leave anyway....but when I got back to Romania, in 2000, I was supposed to go into the 8th grade (with a big exam coming up) so, they put me in the 7th grade to give me a chance to learn everything everyone else learned in 4 years, but in 2...the word suicide came to mind from time to time...but I managed because I was surrounded by people who cared about me and who wanted to help...It was hell for me, after every day of school, I had 2hours of private lessons...romanian, maths... then came Highschool...Good thing all the teachers knew my parents and they were all nice to me... It was a more relaxing experience then before...but another exam followed and I still needed tons of private lessons...at romanian, maths, IT and some chemistry and fizics ...it was a nightmare, but I got threw that to, now I'm at university(in an english section, wanted to get away from all thows bloody romanian lessons) and it's quite tuff here...still have to do with a lot of maths(wish me luck) the IT part I can deal with+with a bit of help...well that's my lifes story...these kind of things can really mess up a kid's mind and drive hi insane, I don't know how I got threw it all... I just know that I'm the most mature persone in my whole family...I feel 10years older than I am, which is kind of cool |
Thegift
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Registered: 01-2008
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 15, 2008 - 08:21 pm: |
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What I have found to be a great self esteem builder is looking at this video on youtube about famous dyslexics.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_qGJ9svUbM&feature=related |
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